Whether you realize it or not, when your girl, or guy, breaks-up with you, this is universe’s way of telling you that changes need to be made in your life. Breakups are a wake up call. This could mean that you’re dropping the ball in the relationship and you’re no longer the person that he or she fell in love with. It could also be a sign that this person is not the one you’re supposed to be with. Determining which one is the tricky part. Sometimes it’s obvious and you know exactly what’s going on; you’ve probably known, or have sensed it for a while. Other times it comes as a complete shock until you do some serious soul searching to figure out exactly what the universe is trying to tell you.

Just always remember–breakups = wake up

Circumstantial Breakups Are Different

Of course there is an exception to this rule and that is in the case of a circumstantial breakup. A circumstantial breakup is when you two just can’t be together because of the circumstances of life. It could be the one of you got a very attractive job offer on the other side of the country, or maybe you’ve graduated college; you both are going home and the distance is too far. Or perhaps the roadblock preventing you from being together is just too big to overcome. This is often an issue of bad timing more than anything. However, I’m also a firm believer that if you truly love someone you will figure out a way to make it work. It just takes two determined people who both want the same thing.

All Other Breakups Are A Wake Up Call

You have either been acting too needy and clingy; where you’re jealous, insecure, controlling and need constant reassurance. Or, you’re behaving too cold and complacent; where either you don’t care that much or you’re taking your partner for granted. Both of those behaviors will drive your partner away, and that’s clear a sign that you must start making some changes if you care about having a healthy and loving relationship.

If it’s your partner that’s behaving in those ways, it may be a sign that it’s time for you to move on. Perhaps this person isn’t the one for you. You can’t fix people, nor is it your job. All you can do is be direct and tell them where they’re dropping the ball and how it makes you feel. You want to express these things with confidence, however, and not in a way where it comes off as groveling or begging. Just give them a little time to correct their mistakes. If they can’t, or won’t, make the changes, then you have to decide if this is something you can live with or not. If you can’t live with it, then don’t, because you will never be happy, nor will they. You must take the initiative to end the relationship.

Resolving Your Breakups

If your partner has broken-up with you, it’s time to take a good, hard look in the mirror and see where you’re screwing up. As I mentioned, if you want a quality relationship, these behaviors are going to prevent you from achieving that. Perhaps you need to seek out some professional therapy, or maybe you just need to tighten up your game a bit; in which case, my coaching can help you with that. I’m not a therapist or psychologist, so if there’s some deep rooted issues from your past, then I recommend seeking out professional help. However, what a breakup all boils down to is that, you need to make some positive changes in your life. The universe is going to keep putting you through the same situations until you learn your lesson and do something about it.

I Can Help You

If you need help with your breakup, or perhaps you are having some other issues with your dating and/or relationships. I can help you. Please visit my coaching page and book private, one-on-one coaching with me. We will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.

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