Women want a high value man

Women Want A High Value Man

What do women want? They want a high value man. When most men hear this they begin to think things like; money, power, fame, good looks. These are all qualities that would certainly be helpful in attracting the woman of your dreams; however, it doesn’t necessarily mean you must have them in order for women to be attracted to you. What this really means is that women want a guy who values and respects himself, and adds value to her life. She wants a man that she respects and admires. A man that knows how to take the lead, whom she can lean on when she needs to. She wants the type of man that isn’t going to take shit from anyone, including her. She doesn’t want a guy that she can just walk all over, because who has respect for someone who feels they’re beneath them?

Women want a high value man

In this article I’m going to talk about what makes a man valuable to women and why it’s so important not only for your own life, but in order to keep women in love with you. If she doesn’t perceive you to be a high value man, she will not be staying with you for long.

Women Are Drawn To A High Value Man

I was inspired to write this after I read an article about men and women, and infidelity. In that article they discussed a study about the type of women men typically cheat with, and the type of men women usually cheat with. What was interesting was the study(unfortunately I no longer have the link) concluded that men don’t necessarily go for a hotter, more attractive woman when they cheat—they basically go for who’s available. Women, on the other hand, ALWAYS cheat with men whom they deem as higher value (in terms of sexual market value) than them and the man with whom they’re currently involved. This essentially concludes that women will always date, mate or marry UP in status. It reminds of what Tony Robbins says, “Women need a reason to have sex, men just need a place.“ I’ve found this to be very true in my observations coaching men and in my personal life.

What Makes You a High Value Man?

That’s a big question to answer, because all women are different and they will all value some things over others. However, I’m going to lay out the 11 basic traits that are ideal to attract quality women. These traits will also help you with having a happy, fulfilling life; woman or no woman.

If you want to keep your girl in love with you, you must always be her best option. The best way to be her best option is to be a high value man.


This is your ability to gently, decisively and confidently lead the interaction in the direction you want it to go. However, you must do this in a loving way, where you’re not trying to force her into anything she’s not ready for.


Girls love to have fun, just like the old 80’s tune says. Obviously, there will be times where you need to be serious with your girl, but for the most part you always want to be fun and playful with her. This includes dating and courting her. Keep this up throughout your relationship and she won’t be able to get enough of you.

Self Worth

This is your confidence in yourself and your self respect. A high value man knows his worth and this drives women crazy, but in a good way.

Drive & Ambition

Most men believe that it’s money that women are so attracted to. Having money is always helpful, but it’s really more of a sign of your drive, ambition and your ability to provide. If you have no drive or ambition, women will eventually think that you don’t have what it takes to win at life.


Women are social creatures and in an ideal world they want a man that is confident and not awkward in social situations. This doesn’t mean that you have to be an extrovert, but you should be able to confidently hold a conversation with her friends, family and even strangers.


Can you communicate with her in a non-linear fashion? What I mean is that, you want to be able to communicate with her in a way that adds a little fun, charm and mystery. Non-linear means, covertly; she’s not 100% sure if you’re being serious, or where she’s not 100% sure what you mean. Of course there will be times when you must be completely direct with your communication, but for the most part you want to have a little fun with your communication and make her wonder a bit.

Physical Fitness

This one is obvious. Women want a man that takes care of himself and his body, just like you expect her to do. Not only will you look good to women, but you will feel better physically and you’ll have more confidence.


In order for a woman to really fall in love with you, she needs to feel like she earned it. At least in the beginning, she must invest in you and win you over. If you give her your love too easily, she will feel like you are not as worthy to her as she is to you.

Social Status

This one isn’t 100% necessary, but it can help quite a bit. It’s good to have a social circle filled with friends and acquaintances. This gives you social proof. If you would be considered the leader or the glue to that social circle, even better.

Sense of Adventure

This doesn’t mean that you have to be an extreme athlete or a world traveler, though anything like that would be helpful. I’m suggesting that you do fun, interesting and sometimes even risky activities. This will add to your fulfilling lifestyle, and women love fun and interesting men that are a little risky. This will make you out of the ordinary, and women are drawn to these men.


You being desired by other women makes you very attractive. If that’s not a reality at this point, it’s a good idea to flirt with all women, regardless of you being attracted to them. It’s also a good idea to begin dating multiple women, if you’re not already in a committed relationship. It’s counter-intuitive, but women want men that other women want.

I Can Help You

If you need help developing yourself into a high value man, or perhaps you are having some issues with your dating and/or relationships. I can help. Please visit my coaching page and book private, one-on-one email coaching with me and we will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.


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  1. […] This is yet another reason why it’s so important that you are focused on your purpose in life; your goals, your passions and having options with other women. Contrary to popular belief, this is much more important than her and having a relationship with her. That’s masculine energy and she will be be much more attracted to you because you are more focused on yourself first. You’re not going to be so concerned about she’s doing or why it’s taking her so long. You’re busy with your own thing. There’s no pressure on her. She feels safe, she feels comfortable. You’re not trying to possess her this way. And when she does choose you, she did it because she feels it, she wants it. It’s not because she was pressured or manipulated into it. It communicates your high value. […]

  2. […] I’m not putting anyone down, or attacking them or making fun of them. I’ve made all these same mistakes and this is how you learn. But, after the courtship has been initiated, you must let women come to you. I can’t stress this enough. When they do, you take the lead and do something about it. But it must be her idea. Otherwise you’re just chasing her, which communicates low value. […]

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