The Strength in Walking Away

One of the scariest and often most difficult things you can do when it comes to a woman you love is walking away when she’s treating you with disrespect, or not giving you what you want and deserve. On the other hand, there’s also a lot of power and strength in walking away. Sometimes it can even get you what you want. However, it’s not meant as a manipulation tactic or game to play, but as a way to communicate your self worth and self respect.

It just so happens that sometimes a nice byproduct of walking away can be her caving-in to your demands if you can do this without any attachments to an outcome. The trick here is that you have to actually mean it. In other words, if you decide walking away from a woman is your best course of action, you must be prepared for the chance that she will not chase after you.

The Beauty In Walking Away

The good thing about this is, you can use this in numerous situations. She puts you in the friend zone? Walk away. She cheats? Walk away. She stops investing in the you and the relationship? Walk away. She’s withholding sex? Walk away. You’re looking for something more serious, but she wants to keep it casual? Walk away. As you can see, it can be effective in many situations. And if she cares enough about you, she will often end up giving you what you want, or at the very least, compromising and meeting you half way. Basically, it’s a negotiation tactic.

You want one thing and she wants another. You can either give-in to her, which may make her happy initially, but cause her to lose respect for you in the long run. Or you can take a stand for what you deserve and simply tell her, “Look. This isn’t going to work for me”.  At that point, she will either compromise or she will stand strong for what SHE wants, demonstrating that the relationship will never work.

Walking Away Is Weak?

One of my YouTube subscribers left a comment the other day about how some people see walking away as being weak. A man would just be giving up and not fighting for her or the relationship by walking away. Those same people would see staying to fight for the relationship as being strong. But, is fighting for her when she’s not fighting for you really coming from a place of strength? Is caving-in to her wants and demands strong? Is allowing her to walk all over you and call the shots strength?

There’s power in walking away. It actually takes strength, and often a lot of it, to walk away. It’s actually weakness to accept her wants and demands when it’s something you don’t want. It’s weakness to accept her abuse and disrespect.

When Should This Be Used?

Walking away when she’s not cooperating, being disrespectful, or not giving you what you want and deserve can be very powerful. However, you also have to use it for circumstances where you’re at standstill, when negotiations have broken down. She’s being stubborn for whatever reason and you cannot, or will not, compromise any further.

You don’t want to use it for every time you’re not getting your way. You’ll come across as pouting or being passive-aggressive, like you’re taking your dollies and going home. So, choose your battles, because you’re absolutely not going to get your way every time. Remember, a relationship is a partnership and a partnership is about working together. Sometimes this means a compromise.

This Is About Self-Respect

This is more about self respect, not being a pushover, and commanding respect from women or anyone. Women don’t respect men who cave-in to them and allow themselves to be pushed around. Yes, she may make a big fuss about it and get angry because you’re not going along with what she wants. She may even try to shame you or lay a guilt trip on you. But, as soon as you cave, her respect and attraction for you plummets. On the surface, she got what she wanted, but now she’s with a man who she has little respect for.

Once women begin to lose respect for you, it’s the beginning of the end. This is why it’s important that you have boundaries. You just know what you’ll accept and what you won’t accept before you get there. As an example, one boundary that I recommend you ALL adopt is to never accept the friend zone.

Boundaries Are Important

You’ve been dating or talking to a woman whom you’re interested in and for whatever reason she gives you the ‘let’s just be friends’ speech. It’s bound to happen to almost all of you at one time in your life, if it hasn’t already. I know I’ve heard that speech before and it isn’t pleasant.

In my youth I used to accept the friend zone. I’d believe that if I hang in there and really show her that I’m great boyfriend material, she’ll change her mind. It did work once. I got the girl who friend zoned me, but that was an exception to the rule. By a pure fluke I did the right things that got me out of the friend zone.

My point here is that one boundary you all should absolutely have is to NOT accept the friend zone. This is a situation that you should always walk away from. At least in this context, walking away doesn’t mean to turn around without saying a word, walking in the other direction. It simply means that you stop investing, go no contact, let go, and assume that you’ll never hear from her again.

You Cannot Bluff

You can’t be fake walking away. You have to fully expect that this is it, that you won’t be hearing from her ever again. Because, if you just do this as a way to manipulate the situation, and she calls your bluff, you don’t want to have to go back to her with your tail between your legs, begging for forgiveness. In other words, if you fake this it could easily backfire on you.

So, in the case of being friend zoned, simply tell her that you’re not interested in being ‘just friends’. Then tell her that if she has a change of heart she should get in contact with you. Then you go no contact and get back out there on the dating market. If she truly loves you and has a change of heart, you’ll be hearing from her.

When You Encounter Disrespect

Another more extreme example would be her cheating on you. You must absolutely walk away from that situation no matter how much you love her. She broke the bond. There is NO coming back from that. Even if you decided to work it out, she may remain faithful to you for the rest of her life, but it will never be the same. She would never respect you. The main reason women cheat is a lack of respect for her man.

Recalling back to what my viewer was taking about; is it weak to walk away from a woman who cheated on you? Is it strength to stay with her and try to work it out? Or in the case of being friend zoned, is it weak to walk away from that? Is it strength to stay and fight for a woman who has no sexual or romantic interest in you?

I know most of you know the answer to this, but a surprisingly large amount of both men and women would say it’s weak to walk away. Your friends and family may try to shame you, saying that you should be strong or to man up and fight. But, at least in both of these cases, she has shown that she doesn’t want you and/or doesn’t respect you.

Walking Away Isn’t Easy

When you love or have strong feelings for a woman, it actually takes strength to walk away from that; a lot of strength. If you’ve ever had to walk away from a woman whom you love, you know exactly how difficult it is. In comparison, it’s easy to just stay and continue to take the abuse, where she loses even more respect for you.

I know this guy who discovered that his wife had been cheating on him for a couple of years. Understandably he was crushed. He asked me what he should do. I told him he needs to leave her. He was apprehensive because they had kids and all their finances were tied together. His apprehension is understandable. But, even if she does feel that it’s very strong of him to stick with her and work it out, deep down her emotions know the difference. She knows he’s being weak.

Taking A Stand

Let’s say a girl keeps flaking on you. You may think that it’s strength to stay and continue to try and get a date with her. However, If you stay and tolerate it, she will just lose respect. She will most likely continue to flake on you until she’s completely turned off, eventually ghosting you. So, you tell her that flakiness is a turn off for you and that this isn’t going to work out.

In all these cases, the girl will either let you go, because she didn’t have much attraction for you to begin with. This simply means that it wouldn’t have worked anyway. In some cases she’ll realize the error of her ways, realize that you’re not going to be pushed around and most likely come after you. She may try to get another chance with you, because your self respect raised her respect and attraction for you. Girls like men who they can’t push around.

What You’re Communicating

Walking away doesn’t just command respect, but it also conveys confidence. It communicates that you’re coming from a place of abundance. It says to her, “I don’t need you. I do just fine with the ladies and I’ll find a better girl”. Of course this raises your value significantly in her eyes.

On the flip side, sticking around to tolerate her abuse and disrespect communicates the opposite of confidence and abundance. It says to her, “You’re the best that I can do and I have no other options”. Of course this lowers your value significantly. Now she’s wondering if you’re worth her time and effort. She begins to think that she can do much better than you.

I’m not saying that walking away is easy. It may be easy when you barely know the girl, but it becomes quite difficult when you’ve been involved with her for a while due to your emotional attachment to her. But, hopefully after you’ve reading this article you will see the importance of standing up for yourself and the importance of the message you send her by staying or walking away.

In Conclusion

Don’t ever allow anyone to tell you that it takes strength to stay and fight for something that she’s not fighting for, nor that it’s weak to walk away from her BS, games, and disrespect. Walk away from the BS, gentlemen. Like I said, she’ll either let you go and save you from a wasting your time and energy on a relationship that would have never worked anyway, or she’ll realize that she made a big mistake and that you’re a man of value.

I Can Help You

Do you need help with walking away from a woman, or you’re not sure if you should? Perhaps you are having some other issues with your dating and/or relationships? I can help you. Please visit my coaching page and book private, one-on-one coaching with me. We will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.

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