Increase her attraction

Increase Her Attraction With Indifference

This is very counter-intuitive for most men; being indifferent to what women say and do will actually increase her attraction for you. This doesn’t mean that you don’t care about her, or care about the relationship. All it means is that you’re unaffected by her tests, her beauty, emotional outbursts, her flakiness, and whether or not you’re going to get some tonight. When it comes to things like that, it’s basically having a ‘I don’t give a fuck’ (IDGAF) attitude. When most men encounter these things with their girl, they fall apart emotionally and lose their composure, or they begin to apologize and placate her. And once you do that, she knows that she has all the power; essentially she has you by the balls. Then her attraction for you begins to take a nosedive. If you continue with that behavior-supplicating to her, being extra nice, kissing her ass-it’s the beginning of the end.

Increase her attraction

Your Indifference Is Sexy

One of the reasons women are so drawn to the so-called “bad boys” is because they’re indifferent to all the things I mentioned above. If a woman cancels a date, he doesn’t see it as a big deal; he has other things he can be doing. If she tries to use her beauty to intimidate him in some way, he laughs it off because he has plenty of options with other women. She throws a temper tantrum or threatens him with a breakup; he walks away, completely indifferent. If a woman is playing games or withholds sex; he shrugs it off, calls his buddies and goes out to meet a new girls. This behavior will increase her attraction, because it’s that IDGAF, high value attitude. It drives women nuts!

Yes, it’s going to piss her off and frustrate her, but what’s also happening is that it will increase her attraction. The reason why is, because this IDGAF attitude communicates that you’re confident, you’re emotionally strong, that you have high value and that YOU are the prize. Women LOVE these traits in a man; probably as much as us men love a pretty face and a hot body.

Abundance = Indifference

Of course this is all much easier said than done if you’re not already completely confident. The truth is, it’s difficult to be indifferent when you have no other options. When you’re coming from a place of scarcity, of course you’re going to fear losing your one and only source for love and sex. In turn, you will do whatever it takes in order to keep her, and as a result you lower your value. You can ‘fake it till you make it’ temporarily, but eventually any desperate, needy and insecure behavior that you may possess will be completely exposed. Not to mention, you will never feel happy and fulfilled unless, at the very least, you’re not already working to improve yourself. In order to turn this around you want your focus to be on abundance, and finding happiness without a woman.

4 Tips To Increase Her Attraction

I came up with four ways that you can naturally develop this indifference, not only to increase her attraction, but to give yourself much more value. This will only make you feel happier, fulfilled and much more confident. The idea is to be able to do ALL of these, and if you can, no woman will ever be able to push you around, or make demands of you. If you apply everything else I teach along with this, you’ll have to be fighting the ladies off with a stick. You will be truly living an abundant lifestyle, at least as far as women are concerned.

Learn To Be Happy Alone

This means that you can go to the movies or bar alone, or maybe even hang at home and still be perfectly happy. You’re not going to get all depressed about it. You’re just as happy as if you were with buddies or a good woman. If you can get to this point, you’ll never feel a NEED to compromise for anyone. It doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t, but you won’t feel that you have to.

Have A Purpose In Life

This is more than having a job or a career. This is something that you’re passionate about; something that you feel you MUST do. And as a man, you must have a compelling purpose in life if you ever want to feel happy, fulfilled and confident. Not only that, but women find a man on a mission to be extremely attractive. You’re never be too available and you’re always just a little hard to get. And when you have a purpose, a woman pulling away from you is not going to mean much to you.

Have An Abundant Social Life

This one is pretty obvious. I mean, if you have places to go or people to see at any given time, do you think that you’re going to be upset or jumping through hoops just to spend time with someone; namely a woman? Of course not! You may WANT to spend time with a particular woman, but you don’t NEED her in order to feel happy.

Date Multiple Women

I’ve actually discussed this before on this blog, and multiple times in my videos. If you’re dating multiple women, you have options. Really, with all I’ve listed above you will have options, but with this particular one you will have options with women. You’re not going to be all thirsty for one girl when you have a few to choose from. You won’t think it much of a big deal if one woman cancels a date on you when you can easily contact another one for a date. Of course this would be if you’re not already in a committed relationship. Just remember that no woman wants to be a man’s only option, nor to be his salvation.

As I mentioned, if you have all these covered you’re not going to be worried when a girl gets upset with you, is acting flaky, or playing games. You have plenty to fall back on. Plus, you’ll be much more confident and much happier in life, and as a result you will increase her attraction. And not just one woman’s attraction, but most women’s attraction.

I Can Help You

Do you feel that you’re lacking in life or having trouble attracting women? Perhaps you are having some other issues with your dating and/or relationships? I can help you. Please visit my coaching page and book private, one-on-one coaching with me. We will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.

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  1. Erik knows what he is talking about. This a great article. Of all the coaches out there he is head and shoulders above the rest. I came across two other coaches about 3 years ago and used their materials with success, but never reached out to them for advice as they seemed cocky. Before that I was in the dark, naive, and implementing a lot of the stuff correctly by luck because I am busy as a business owner and avid distance runner, never making women a priority as my business and running marathons came first…my only flaw would be that if I perceived a slight or show of disrespect from a woman, I would disqualify her from my life and at the same time intentionally date another woman to give a “payback” for the disrespect. Immature, I know. I was in a similar situation last week and reached out to Erik for help not wanting to “ghost” the woman who I felt disrespected me as we have 4 years of history together and seem to be a good fit for each other. Erik gave me the tools and insight on how to respond in a mature way instead of burning bridges. I recommend Erik to anyone needing insight and advice on how to interact with the opposite sex.

  2. I cannot stress how much happy and excited about coming across this blog! Of all the blogs I’ve been in touch with( on this kind of niche)…this happens to be tho most detailed and sure proof working one ever! I want to encourage you to keep it up!!! Like This is really amazing…I just regret why I didn’t come across this blog way before…I would definitely had been a different person in my former relationships!!!
    Job well done Erik

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