15 Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

Yes, there’s always a chance that your ex wants you back as long as you didn’t completely blow it. This means that as long as she still feels some respect and attraction for you, and as long as they’re not distracted by another man in their life, there’s a chance that your ex wants you back.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been surprised about the direction a post breakup goes. I’ve had women tell me that they despise me and never want to see me again, only to have them contacting me a few months later wanting to see me. But then again, I’ve also had women who I thought for SURE I’d hearing from again, never to be heard from again. So you just never know. It’s always best that you don’t get hung up on the possibilities. So just assume that it’s over and let her go.

If You Want Your Ex Back

If you ever want there to be a chance that your ex could come back, don’t burn bridges during a breakup. This means, don’t burn the relationship to the ground just because you’re hurting and upset. Keep your emotions in check and keep things civil. Of course you can be upset, but never lose composure and do NOT do or say anything that you’re going to regret after you calm down.

After the breakup, immediately go into No Contact. This simply means that you do not initiate contact for ANY reason, besides maybe if there’s a death of someone in your immediate family. This means NO happy birthdays, no merry Christmas, no happy Valentine’s day, no I miss yous, no showing up unannounced anywhere they may be, nothing. They are out of your life. They most likely pushed YOU out, or they stopped investing in you.

But how do you know that your ex has realized their mistake and now your ex wants you back since you’re in no contact? Well, there are some signs that she will give you that indicate your ex wants you back.

Signs Your Ex Wants You Back

I’m going to be discussing 15 most likely signs that your ex wants you back. This doesn’t necessarily mean they want you back 100%, but they’re absolutely thinking about it and they certainly miss you. If you two have broken up, you’ve been in no contact, you’ve been working on yourself, maybe even dating new women and you begin to notice that your ex is doing some or all of these things, there’s a really good chance that she wants you back.

Your ex wants you back if…

She Continues to Reach Out

If you notice that she continues, or begins to call or text you somewhat regularly, she’s missing you and the connection you shared. It’s up to you if you want to entertain her reaching out again, but you shouldn’t allow yourself to begin a phone-ship, where you’re not seeing each other, only texting and talking on the phone. Arrange a date or meet-up. And be sure to watch my video “should you ever ignore your ex”.

She Asks Your Friends About You

Have your buddies told you that your ex is asking about you? Or perhaps her friends are asking about you in order to report back to her? She’s curious and most likely wondering if the door is still open for her. However, it could be that she’s jut looking for validation, hoping that you’re crushed about her no longer in your life. It’s best to remain a bit mysterious and not come across as too eager about her, even if you are. Remember, your attention is your superpower!

She Asks If You’re Seeing Anyone

If your ex is asking if you’re seeing anyone, it could be just a little curiosity, but most likely she’s very concerned that someone else snatched you up. I recommend that you remain a bit elusive and ambiguous in giving her any real answers, or giving answers to her friends that will get back to her. Like I just said, remain mysterious. Let her wonder about you a bit.

She Stalks Your Social Media

This alone doesn’t really mean anything, because we all do this to some extent, even though you shouldn’t. But, if she’s stalking your social media, watching your stories, liking and commenting and whatnot, either she wants your attention, or she’s curious about your life and what you’re up to. Do not give her the attention she craves. Act as if you didn’t even notice. Make her work for your attention.

She’s Jealous or Tries to Make You Jealous

Indifference is the opposite of love and there’s nothing indifferent about a woman getting jealous about you giving attention to another woman. It’s the same if your ex is going out of her way to make you jealous. If she’s jealous it’s because she still has feelings. If she tries to make you jealous she either still has feelings or she wants to see if you still have feelings, or both. Do your best to not show her jealousy, because this could just be a test.

She Remains Single or Hides Dates From You

While remaining single isn’t a big, clear sign, it can mean that she just has no urge to be with anyone else because she misses you. If she wants you back, but you’re not making it easy for her, which is exactly what you should do, she may be hiding her dates from you so you don’t get hurt. She may also be hiding dates from you, making sure that you don’t think that she’s no longer interested.

She’s Unhappy Without You

Perhaps you’ve noticed that she’s just not the same happy girl she used to be; she’s a bit reclusive, or no longer smiles. You may have even noticed that she has turned to drugs or alcohol to hide her pain, which is something MANY people do when they’re hurting and depressed, but they don’t know what to do about it. This is a good sign that she’s unhappy with her choices and doesn’t know how to make it better. Though it’s not good for her if she’s using drugs or alcohol to cope.

She Looks for Excuses to Talk or Spend Time With You

If you noticed that she’s making up ridiculous excuses to talk to you or see you, you can bet that she’s missing you quite a bit. However, she doesn’t want to risk being rejected by you. After all, she hurt you and she fully expects that you’re going to hurt her too if she tells you that she wants you back, or that you’re no longer interested.

She Reminds You of Inside Jokes & Memories

Obviously she would have to talk to you for you to notice this. If she’s reminding you of the good times; the inside jokes and the sweet memories, she wants to get you back to that place emotionally and hope that you begin to feel those feelings again. This is a good sign that she may just want to create some new memories if you play your cards right.

She Tells You She Misses or Even Hates You

Obviously if she’s telling you that she misses you, then she misses you enough where she felt she had to express it directly at you. In other words, she wants you to know that she misses you. Like I said before, indifference is the opposite of love. If she’s telling you how much she hates you, there’s still a lot of love there, even though she’s saying hate. Hating someone in the context of romance really just means that they love you, but they’re just hurt or angry. They’re still emotionally invested in you. If she’s showing you emotions, there’s still feelings there.

She Tells You That She’s Never Stopped Loving You

Now, of course this is in the same vein of missing or hating you, but this is a much more intense feeling of course. This is a really good sign that she wants you to know that she still has some deep feelings for you. Does it mean that she wants to jump back into a relationship with you? Not necessarily. But the feelings are still there to some extent and that’s something that you can work with.

She Flirts With You

If she’s flirting with you, she’s still feeling attraction for you. She will feel much safer flirting with you if you lead the way, but this just really shows that the attraction and chemistry is still there. This will only increase your chances of a reconciliation if you know how to be playful and flirt back.

She Can’t Stop Touching You

If you bump into each other, or arrange a date or meet-up of some sort and you notice that she keeps touching you, even playfully, she’s still feeling the chemistry and attraction. Look for things like slapping your arm, putting her hand on yours, even what seems like accidental touching. It really goes hand in hand with flirting, but you don’t have to be face to face to flirt. So, touching is a really big sign that the attraction is still there.

She Sleeps With You

With all this touching and flirting going on, it’s only natural that it could easily lead into the bedroom. Now, in most cases, women won’t sleep with an ex unless there’s still some relatively strong feelings there, unless, maybe, you’re just REALLY good in bed. Yes, if you know how to rock her world in the bedroom like no other, and she feels comfortable with you, it’s very possible that she will sleep with you without having any strong feelings, but it’s rare. So if she sleeps with you, especially more than once, that’s a pretty good sign that she may want to start things back up with you again. Also look for affectionate behavior. If she’s showing you affection, that’s a better way to know if there’s still love there for you.

She Apologizes for Her Part in the Breakup

If a woman actually takes accountability for the mistakes she made in the relationship, it’s nothing short of a miracle. This is also a good sign, because women almost never take accountability for their screw ups. But she really wants to mend things between you two, it’s not completely unheard of for a woman to apologize for her mistakes.

Does Your Ex Want You Back?

Those are 15 most common signs that your ex wants you back, or at the very least she’s missing you like crazy. Keep in mind that the more of these signs that she’s showing you, the more likely she does want you back. But, on the other hand, the less signs she’s showing, the more likely she’s just curious or is having an moment of weakness. What it all boils down to are her actions, not necessarily what she’s telling you. Actions don’t lie.

What a lot of men don’t understand is that if a woman truly loves you, she’s not going to let you get away permanently. She may breakup with you, pull away, or say that she no longer has feelings for you, but she’s expressing how she feels in that moment, which is always subject to change. Women act based on their current emotional state. They’re typically guided by their emotions.

So today she may be telling you that it’s over, but if you give her a little time and space she could easily come back to loving you again.

Understand This…

When a woman is done with you, she’s done. However, you never really know if she’s truly done with you until you know. A few weeks or months down the line, her emotions could change. So it’s best to just leave her be. Just walk away, go no contact, and truly begin to move on. If she comes back, and you still want her back, then great. Simply arrange a date or meet-up so you can see each other face to face, flirt and re-attract her. Oftentimes feelings come rushing back in as soon as she looks into your eyes and feels your energy again. And don’t forget, you can help seal the deal by getting a little physically intimate. Don’t be afraid of breaking the touch barrier all over again, just like when you first began dating her.

In Conclusion

Do NOT wait for her to come back, do not wait for her to do all the things I mentioned in this article. You must move on with your life, because you can’t put your life on hold for a maybe. If she reaches out, do not wait for her to tell you she wants to get back together. You’re the man, so take the lead and lead her in the direction you want things to go by asking her out or suggest meeting to ‘catch up’. In other words, don’t try to force her or convince her. That shows low value and desperation. Women want high value men who they perceive to be a catch. And always remember, just because she can’t let you go doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s in love with you.

I Can Help You

Do you need help with getting your ex back? Perhaps you are having some other issues with your dating and/or relationships? I can help you. Please visit my coaching page and book private, one-on-one coaching with me. We will get to the bottom of this and get things turned around for you.

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